All of my first five children threw temper tantrums. When my fifth baby turned fourteen months old, I found out what I needed to in order to change my parenting style and prevent any more temper tantrums from him. He was forever free of temper tantrums within a week or so of my implementing the changes. After this I used my newly found techniques with each additional baby I had, all eight of them from birth on, effectively preventing tantrums. Not one of them ever had a temper tantrum, not even the two that had ADHD, or the one of them that had very strong Oppositional Defiant Disorder. This daughter, as a young adult, stated, "I was an extremely defiant child, yet, through all the years my mother and I struggled over who was going to be in charge, I simply loved how she responded to my anger."
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
Type-One temper tantrums are true expressions of children's anger that have escalated to states of rage, sometimes to the extreme, or even to the maximum. These expressions of anger are ones that are out-of-control or nearly so. These types of temper tantrums happen naturally as things occur to make children angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
"Expert" temper tantrum advice has historically included a healthy amount of "ignore the tantrums." Actually, I should say an unhealthy amount, because that is faulty advice that I steadfastly followed when I was initially parenting my first five children. I did learn, ultimately, by eliminating the temper tantrums of my fifth child, that the process of ignoring tantrums was partly what was causing them. In fact, I believe that ignoring tantrums almost guarantees they will recur. Certainly, there are additional factors in the total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These are elaborated on in my discussion of my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." But it all begins with parents ending their ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
Type-One temper tantrums are true expressions of children's anger that have escalated to states of rage, sometimes to the extreme, or even to the maximum. These expressions of anger are ones that are out-of-control or nearly so. These types of temper tantrums happen naturally as things occur to make children angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
"Expert" temper tantrum advice has historically included a healthy amount of "ignore the tantrums." Actually, I should say an unhealthy amount, because that is faulty advice that I steadfastly followed when I was initially parenting my first five children. I did learn, ultimately, by eliminating the temper tantrums of my fifth child, that the process of ignoring tantrums was partly what was causing them. In fact, I believe that ignoring tantrums almost guarantees they will recur. Certainly, there are additional factors in the total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from the behavioral repertoires of children. These are elaborated on in my discussion of my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." But it all begins with parents ending their ignoring-the-tantrums behaviors.
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