I:0:T During the forty years I've been parenting, the most consistent advice from tantrum experts has been for parents to ignore their children's tantrums. The theory behind such techniques of ignoring temper tantrums, in my understanding, has been that ignoring them prevents the validation of them. The ignoring-the-tantrums parent avoids rewarding children for the tantrums and avoids positively reinforcing the negative behavior by giving any kind of attention.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents the way to totally, 100% eliminate tantrums from their kids' behavioral repertoires so that there are no longer any kind of temper tantrums in progress to have to manage, deal with, handle, or stop. I also help parents know how to consistently respond to a newborn baby in a way that the child never gets into a pattern of throwing tantrums or of escalating with anger. I give parents these techniques with clarity and with as many examples as possible, hoping they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Just a few short decades ago, experts still weren't putting the word prevention in the same sentence along with the word tantrum. Their advice was given only to teach parents the best ways to deal with and manage the tantrums, much the same as is the case today. However, current parenting experts now inform parents on how to prevent a portion of the temper tantrums by handling the child's tantrum triggers, such as tiredness, frustration, and hunger. Or in other words, these parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the tiredness, frustration, and hunger in their children. They don't actually teach parents how to prevent tantrums in their children's normal living, which occasionally includes hunger, frustration, and tiredness.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents the way to totally, 100% eliminate tantrums from their kids' behavioral repertoires so that there are no longer any kind of temper tantrums in progress to have to manage, deal with, handle, or stop. I also help parents know how to consistently respond to a newborn baby in a way that the child never gets into a pattern of throwing tantrums or of escalating with anger. I give parents these techniques with clarity and with as many examples as possible, hoping they will learn them quickly and easily.
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