Much of the time parenting "experts," which is to say people who got that way mostly by attending college and not so much by raising children, tell us that kids less than six months or a year old don't have the ability to experience real anger. These "experts" see newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that even if babies sound angry they really aren't. They're just instinctually communicating or something. I don't know what these parenting professionals believe begins to happen at this magical age of six months or a year that makes babies finally able to be angry when they sound angry. But I know that I disagree with their theory.
From having and raising thirteen kids, I've learned some things about how infants function. I think newborns have very real emotions. I think they can and do once in awhile feel real anger-potentially from the moment they are born. If an infant's needs are not met, he or she will feel very natural human anger. That anger can and does occasionally escalate into tantrums. Furthermore, babies are capable of understanding parental responses, or lack of them, to their anger. They know if their anger needs are getting met. If infants consistently do not get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to quickly escalate into temper tantrums. But if the infants do regularly get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to not throw temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There isn't any scientific evidence for the standard theories that every child throws tantrums, and that tantrums are a very natural and normal part of child development. There are multitudes of theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, even brain chemicals! The most typical theories, however, focus on children's: need for attention, low tolerance for frustration, inability to use words to express themselves, lack of problem-solving abilities, and lack of ways to express their emotions. None of these things are the real cause of temper tantrums. They are simply the things that cause pre-tantrum anger. If parents know how to respond to such pre-tantrum anger, it will not develop into temper tantrums. Children who regularly experience parents' appropriate responses to their frustration anger generally develop lots of patience and have no need to express their anger in tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
From having and raising thirteen kids, I've learned some things about how infants function. I think newborns have very real emotions. I think they can and do once in awhile feel real anger-potentially from the moment they are born. If an infant's needs are not met, he or she will feel very natural human anger. That anger can and does occasionally escalate into tantrums. Furthermore, babies are capable of understanding parental responses, or lack of them, to their anger. They know if their anger needs are getting met. If infants consistently do not get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to quickly escalate into temper tantrums. But if the infants do regularly get their anger needs met, they come to trust that likelihood, becoming predisposed to not throw temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There isn't any scientific evidence for the standard theories that every child throws tantrums, and that tantrums are a very natural and normal part of child development. There are multitudes of theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, even brain chemicals! The most typical theories, however, focus on children's: need for attention, low tolerance for frustration, inability to use words to express themselves, lack of problem-solving abilities, and lack of ways to express their emotions. None of these things are the real cause of temper tantrums. They are simply the things that cause pre-tantrum anger. If parents know how to respond to such pre-tantrum anger, it will not develop into temper tantrums. Children who regularly experience parents' appropriate responses to their frustration anger generally develop lots of patience and have no need to express their anger in tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
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