Before sharing with you five strategies to transform your parent teenager relationship, a word about parenting philosophy is in order.
There are parents who seem to be hell bent on appearing to be the authority figure in the eyes of their teenager. This kind of positioning ends up poisoning your efforts to create authentic communication and indeed your parent teenager relationship.
True authority is not about commanding, telling and having to be right all the time. Instead it is about being wise and practicing unconditional love. For example a parent will do well to notice the talents of their teenager and even ask them to teach them a thing or two. This action tells the teenager that their opinions matter and that good teachers are also good learners.
It also reveals that you as a parent are open to the opinions of your teen.
That being said, I would like to now share with you, five golden tips to help you develop your parent teenager relationship.
Firstly. Be present. Bring your attention to what your teenager is saying rather than pushing your own agenda. Listen to your teenager rather than your own thoughts. Make eye contact. Lean forward.
Secondly. Pursue your teenagers views. Don't wait for them to speak up. Instead ask them.
Thirdly. Ask questions that require lengthy responses rather than one word answers. Instead of asking your teenager "did you enjoy watching the game" ask them "what did you like about the game?" Or if they didn't like it, ask "what didn't you like about it?"
Fourthly. Avoid interrupting. Allow your teen to speak even if it sounds boring or meaningless. Concentrate on pure listening. Don't just assume that you know what they mean. If you interrupt them, they will receive the message that you don't really care.
Fifthly. Be genuine. Don't be satisfied with just small talk. Unearth something about your teenager that genuinely interests you. Think carefully before you speak.
By adhering to these five guidelines you will most surely connect with your teenager and be able to have a two way communication that will draw you together in your parent teenager relationship.
There are parents who seem to be hell bent on appearing to be the authority figure in the eyes of their teenager. This kind of positioning ends up poisoning your efforts to create authentic communication and indeed your parent teenager relationship.
True authority is not about commanding, telling and having to be right all the time. Instead it is about being wise and practicing unconditional love. For example a parent will do well to notice the talents of their teenager and even ask them to teach them a thing or two. This action tells the teenager that their opinions matter and that good teachers are also good learners.
It also reveals that you as a parent are open to the opinions of your teen.
That being said, I would like to now share with you, five golden tips to help you develop your parent teenager relationship.
Firstly. Be present. Bring your attention to what your teenager is saying rather than pushing your own agenda. Listen to your teenager rather than your own thoughts. Make eye contact. Lean forward.
Secondly. Pursue your teenagers views. Don't wait for them to speak up. Instead ask them.
Thirdly. Ask questions that require lengthy responses rather than one word answers. Instead of asking your teenager "did you enjoy watching the game" ask them "what did you like about the game?" Or if they didn't like it, ask "what didn't you like about it?"
Fourthly. Avoid interrupting. Allow your teen to speak even if it sounds boring or meaningless. Concentrate on pure listening. Don't just assume that you know what they mean. If you interrupt them, they will receive the message that you don't really care.
Fifthly. Be genuine. Don't be satisfied with just small talk. Unearth something about your teenager that genuinely interests you. Think carefully before you speak.
By adhering to these five guidelines you will most surely connect with your teenager and be able to have a two way communication that will draw you together in your parent teenager relationship.
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