Directing and correcting your kid as a way of parenting as well as the laissez-faire or 'hands off' approach tp parenting are seriously flawed particularly when applied to a parent teenager relationship. Both of these common traditional approaches to parenting ususally end up with destructive consequences. Rather, by following the lead taken in business and sporting circles, a coaching approach to parenting can prove to be beneficial.
Since I have adopted a coaching approach in raising our four teenagers, my wife and I have observed at least seven positive developments in our children. Such developments I believe have arisen because of an improved quality of our parent teenager relationships.
Here are seven benefits that can be achieved through using a coaching approach to parenting your teenager.
1. Teenagers who exhibit greater motivation and zest for life. This is reflected in visioning, goal setting and making action plans.
2. Teenagers who are more willing to communicate.
3. Teenagers who have developed greater emotional stability. This shows up in fewer emotional outbursts and more respectful dialogue.
4. Teens who have become more adept at problem solving. Rather than become despairing, they come to know that their are solutions to practically every problem.
5. Teenagers who are less apt to stressing out when they make a mistake, knowing that mistakes are an important part of their learning curve.
6. Teenagers who are more at peace within. This is reflected in less arguments, less confrontation and a willingness to listen to the view points of others.
7. Teenagers who have made advances in gaining greater clarity in terms of who they are and what direction to take in life.
The chances are that in your current parent teenager relationship you have already unconsciously adopted coach like strategies and are experiencing the powerful benefits of doing so. Or you may still be practicing old school parenting styles and experiencing a lot of pain and frustration.
Where ever your current parent teenager relationship is at, it's a healthy practice practice to do a relationship stock take. Decide what is is clearly working and keep on doing it. Decide what is clearly not working and replace it with something else until you get it right.
In the process, I believe that over time, what you will end up with is parenting skills and tools that will be useful in developing a wonderful parent teenager relationship.
Since I have adopted a coaching approach in raising our four teenagers, my wife and I have observed at least seven positive developments in our children. Such developments I believe have arisen because of an improved quality of our parent teenager relationships.
Here are seven benefits that can be achieved through using a coaching approach to parenting your teenager.
1. Teenagers who exhibit greater motivation and zest for life. This is reflected in visioning, goal setting and making action plans.
2. Teenagers who are more willing to communicate.
3. Teenagers who have developed greater emotional stability. This shows up in fewer emotional outbursts and more respectful dialogue.
4. Teens who have become more adept at problem solving. Rather than become despairing, they come to know that their are solutions to practically every problem.
5. Teenagers who are less apt to stressing out when they make a mistake, knowing that mistakes are an important part of their learning curve.
6. Teenagers who are more at peace within. This is reflected in less arguments, less confrontation and a willingness to listen to the view points of others.
7. Teenagers who have made advances in gaining greater clarity in terms of who they are and what direction to take in life.
The chances are that in your current parent teenager relationship you have already unconsciously adopted coach like strategies and are experiencing the powerful benefits of doing so. Or you may still be practicing old school parenting styles and experiencing a lot of pain and frustration.
Where ever your current parent teenager relationship is at, it's a healthy practice practice to do a relationship stock take. Decide what is is clearly working and keep on doing it. Decide what is clearly not working and replace it with something else until you get it right.
In the process, I believe that over time, what you will end up with is parenting skills and tools that will be useful in developing a wonderful parent teenager relationship.
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