The word "should" is an incredibly dangerous word.
There's a lot of serious emotions attached to that word. There's a lot of major suffering that comes along with that word. Pain. Grief. Expectation. The works.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
The dark times will always be present.
But what makes us suffer endlessly is not accepting the truth.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
There's a lot of serious emotions attached to that word. There's a lot of major suffering that comes along with that word. Pain. Grief. Expectation. The works.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
The dark times will always be present.
But what makes us suffer endlessly is not accepting the truth.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No future...because you're in the moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses About Faith http://thewordsofencouragement.com/bible-verses-about-faith/ or these Quotes On Hope http://thewordsofencouragement.com/quotes-on-hope/ to get some motivation to move forward!
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